On Saturday the postman delivered readers’ letters many of them about the Pakistani groomers and the Muslim slaughterers of soldier Lee Rigby. Some had swastikas, others pictures of Enoch Powell to accompany  words of such odium that it felt as if acid was burning my hands and eyes. Yes, I was distressed, but more than that, filled with red hot fury.  I have written incessantly against the gangs and their sick values, clearly never enough. And how dare they link me to the Woolwich savagery? What’s it got to do with me or the millions of other blameless British Muslims? We hate Islamicist brutes more than any outsiders ever could. They ruin our futures and hopes. And at moments of high tension, the most liberal and democratic of us fantasize about transporting them all to a remote, cold island, their own dismal caliphate  where they could preach to each other and die.

Muslim ‘leaders’, Imams  and those in the public eye feel under pressure to line up and denounce such perpetrators. They do as expected partly to protect Muslims from unwarranted  suspicion and revenge attacks. The response, though understandable, is misguided. This time even Richard Littlejohn, the implacable foe of migrants and minorities, admires the ‘mainstream Muslims’ who have emphatically condemned the killers. If Littlejohn commends these pronouncements,  we must worry.  It is baleful and bigoted to assume that all of us are guilty of complicity unless we stand up and attack those who are ITALS PREVIOS WD guilty. I don’t recall the Irish in mainland Britain being forced into collective denuncations following IRA bomb attacks on civilians and soldiers. Muslims do not expect white Britons to appear on Newsnight and distance themselves from drone massacres of the innocent. So don’t ask of us what is not ever asked of others. And more importantly this confrontation is between us fellow citizens and them, all militants, ideologues, extremists, hardliners and believers who use faith as a weapon of war.

Furthermore, let’s stop going on about what our holy texts say or don’t.  We must focus not on what Islam says but on what too many Muslims do. Some facts are indisputable: around the world one finds disaffected Muslims who are consumed with bloodlust,  who have lost the capacity for dialogue and compromise, who seem to have given up on the best of human virtues- compassion, tolerance, freedom, diversity – and who are disconnected from the most enlightened, earlier Muslim civilizations.  Genuine grievances have mutated into generalised brutishness.

Countless European Muslims know and oppose destructive western policies. But we understand the political contract and work within democratic conventions. The awful truth is that I could never work or write the way I do here in any Muslim country, not even after the Arab Spring.  They would silence me in days, possibly forever.

Un-free and controlled for decades, these nations have yet to truly understand freedom and democratic thought processes. Maybe it takes a long time for this to happen. Resistance by those who do value these is quickly snuffed out. Power is tied to absolute domination and violence; obedience is the norm and a dependency on strong political and religious leadership is passed on from generation to generation. Even when dictatorships are overthrown or Muslims move to proper working democracies, this propensity to rely on strong men remains.

Devious manipulators such as Omar Bakri Mohammed founder of the al-Muhajiroun pack,  his successor Anjem Choudary  ( a smart, British educated lawyer) and Saudi backed mullahs know how easily they can ensnare  young Muslims and turn them. Even the highly educated blindly submit and join the extremist creeds. Read Radical by Maajid Nawaz, co-founder of Quilliam, the think tank which studies radicalisation. He was a crazed, violent Islamicist who, during Mubarak’s time, ended up in an Egyptian prison where inmates were routinely tortured. He was supported by Amnesty and met prisoners who were democrats and liberals. Those experiences enabled Nawaz to free himself from  the British jihadis who had got to him.

The political is also personal. The majority of fanatical followers are messed up in their heads and seem incapable of having fulfilling relationships with women, except that is, their mothers, who usually  spoil them. Their wives and sisters are bullied and ruthlessly dominated, while white females are considered sluts to be exploited. Sexually they take, never share. These dysfunctional males must upset those millions of Muslim men, men like Labour MP Sadiq Khan or James Caan, the Dragon’s Den entrepreneur, who are respectful of females, have open minds and a commitment to law and order.  I see a connection between the violators and possessors of females and religious militants hell-bent on wrecking our society. Their masculinity is noxious, confused, untamed, dangerously rough and dangerously suggestible.

When faced with terrorism, successive governments have focussed on Quran, mosques, sometimes universities and local community henchmen. Hazel Blears when at the Home Office introduced the disastrous Prevent agenda, in effect a policy coercing Muslims to spy on each other. Very Stalinist. Didn’t work. Now Cameron wants to control the availability of Islamicist material on the web. I agree with him but can’t see how that can be done. And the Tory push for more state intrusion into private life will be counterproductive and unacceptable in a free country.

Hitherto ignored is the psychological, interior world of convicted terrorists. Their states of mind should, surely be explored by dispassionate experts. I once proposed to Blears just such a pilot research project  and she was majestically dismissive. New Labour preferred  to send in approved imams to ‘cure’ the prisoners, which sometimes works, but is rudimentary and based on a limited idea of human behaviour.  We need to know about their upbringing in depth. Did they have autonomy or were decisions imposed on them? Were they happy when young? Their self esteem, experiences of racism,  modernity, attitudes to sexuality may provide some answers.  Unless we know them, we can’t change these men. If we don’t change them, no military, intelligence or police interventions will stop the bloody chaos they will continue to inflict. Send in the psychologists for all our sakes.

The Independent 27th May 2013